Updated: Sep 16, 2020
Feelings cause vibrations; we live every day with a human body that is experiencing different kinds of emotions, vibrations give off an energy which other humans can sense.
If we experience negative emotions we think of them as a nuisance, a disturbance and we try to get rid of them instead of accept them.
What we are thinking (or picturing) in our brain will cause us to have these vibrations, but most of the time we are unaware of what we are thinking. So unintentionally the energy from the vibrations cause us to react and behave the way we do.
This is important because our reactions and behavior will give us the current results we have in our life.
What if we don’t like the results we have, what can we do?
We can’t escape our feelings and vibrations they are part of being human, the only way to change the feeling / emotion we have is to change our thoughts about the situations, problems and results we have in our lives every day. We don't have to eliminate the thoughts, but we do need to be aware of the way we are talking to ourselves. Our inner voice is often too critical.
Being able to become aware of our thoughts is a skill, we often think out thoughts are ‘true’ for example “my kids are annoying." To some people they may be annoying, to others they may not. We have labelled them as annoying though, and see that as a fact.
Our thoughts are sentences and stories and pictures in our minds, sometimes mine feel like an old film reel repeating itself, I don’t know about you, but I only ever rewatch my favourite movies, I don’t watch the movies I didn’t like again and again, so why am I repeating old stories about my past again and again, when I don't even like the story! Do I feel uplifted and full of joy after my thoughts ? no, do they bring me down and make me grumpy – yes.
So what can I do instead? I can’t just think ‘happy’ thoughts, or tell myself everything is going to be okay, it doesn’t quite work. I have been coached this past year, at least once a week I am fortunate enough to have the tools to understand myself now, to know what to do about my inner critic, so I choose to be kind to myself instead and tell myself that I am human, that it is okay to think about the past, but that it is okay to let go of the bits that are no use to me.
I can teach you how to do this as well, once you have learnt the self development skills I have, you will use them for the rest of your life.
I know that if I keep looking back I will never get to where I am supposed to be in my life. I am the only one stopping myself, no one else. So I am now learning to take responsibility for my thoughts and look at where I am going, not where I have been.